Here are 5 ways to increase your Happiness.
Note: A meaningful life, is not necessarily a happy life. Do not confuse the two.
Here are 5 ways to increase your Happiness.
Note: A meaningful life, is not necessarily a happy life. Do not confuse the two.
It’s All-the-Rage these days. “Making a Difference”. And—“giving back to the Community”. But…..why? Seriously. Why?
Exactly WHAT??–has “the Community” TANGIBLY done, for you personally? Did the “Community” buy you a Car? Or pay for a years-worth of your College classes? Or pay your Rent? or get you a Promotion? Did they pay your big medical bills? No? Then why on earth do you feel any need to “give back” in the first place?
No one answers this. They believe in “Service”, but they can’t (or won’t) tell you Why.
Most of the time they tell themselves they “made a difference” by volunteering, but 5 out of 6 times, what really happens is, they make sure that the next day, they are sure to wear the ribbon, badge or pin that they got for Volunteering, to work with them the next day. So YOU will be curious and ask them about it. They simply want the recognition and to feed their ego. WOULD THEY have volunteered or “been of Service” IF they couldn’t tell anyone at all that they did it? I truly wonder.
Think about this! You, and your sweetie are stranded on some Island. The weather is warm. There are Coconuts, Guavas, Papayas, Grapes, Oranges, Pineapples and Berries growing everywhere. There is even a fresh-water lake with Trout fish in it. But no snakes or wild animals. The only problem is, there is only the two of you. There are no other people on this Island. S0…..you have NO ONE, to “be of service” to. NO ONE, to “give back” to. No “Community” to “make a difference” in. No community to “recognize your contribution”. Just you & your sweetie. No one else to “serve”. Would Life be futile and meaningless? Would you kill yourself? Could you still be happy on this Island?
Gotta Luv Carmen Caboom! She’s Funny and speaks her mind. I wish she’d go back to doing more Youtube videos that are 20 minutes or Less, like she used to, but she’s still fun to listen to.
Warning: video contains Adult language.
A few weeks ago, the Covid-19 Virus was worse. Since then, I have heard that hospital admissions, notably in New York, where it was quite bad, have gone down. It would appear, in my opinion, that nationwide, we have already hit the peak and are now on the downhill side with things subsiding. That’s good! The weird thing is, that while things are getting better and more testing has been done, I am seeing more people than ever wearing masks— more than a few weeks back when things were actually worse!
While I had tuned in many times to hear news updates on CNN and Fox News, I got curious about what else is being said, from doctors or people who know vaccines, on YouTube or other websites. I found this video interview, with Dr. Sherri Tenpenny. (below)
NOTE: You are on your own with this video. What you do, or don’t do, and what you believe or don’t believe, is entirely up to you and your own doing. I am not responsible or liable. I am not a Doctor and am not telling you what to do. That is between you and your Doctor, and is your own choice. I am sharing info. It is up to you to use your own critical thinking skills. Also, sharing this video does NOT mean that I believe or agree with everything else on the website I found it on. I don’t. So, with that said—
Meet Dr. Sherri Tenpenny. She also has more/other videos on Youtube. And her own website. Have a listen, and decide what *you* think of this interview with her. I found this to be interesting information, for example, right in the beginning and at 22 minutes-onward, and at 24 minutes-30 seconds-onward. https://beforeitsnews.com/health/2020/05/dr-tenpenny-this-is-the-biggest-scam-ever-perpetrated-on-the-human-race-3022120.html
OK, someone has to say it. How do you feel about other people saying your job is “not essential?” Really?!? Are Nurses, Police, and Microbiologists and Truck Drivers who bring food to the grocery stores the only ones who “Count”?
Lately, if you are not already working in one of those professions, it may seem as if you don’t matter, You are not “essential”. I say that’s wrong.
The world is a better place, for having Nurses, police, etc.—BUT—
Look at the next time your City had elections, and people running for office with commercials on TV—and be Aware—what do 95% of those commercials always make it a point to say?: (wait for it):…..
“Candidate Kathy Johnson is ENDORSED BY:
A) the local School board or teachers union
B) the Firefighters Union
C) the Nurses Union……….and there you have it! Haven’t you already seen this on TV last time? Always the same: Police, Nurses, Teachers, and Firefighters. Gawwwd, yes. As long as we’ve got those under-our-belt it’s as if nooooo one else matters! The rest of you just don’t count, or “measure up”. If you say they don’t really believe that, then I ask: then why make such a big deal out of this or that person having that endorsement to begin with, as if its some Diamond Ace-in-the-Hole card to play?
What about YOU? Are you a waitress? Admin. Assistant? Anything non-medical? Work in the Mall? Bus driver? Work at Staples or Target? Computer repair? Smartphone Salesperson? Furniture Sales? Cook in a restaurant? Don’t YOU matter, too? Did you go to work yesterday? No? Who decided? When will you go back? Who decides?–and will *that* person or persons be dependent on any gov’t check, loan or relief -for themselves?? If you are still waiting to return to work, when will you “Matter” again?
I saw someone carrying a sign on TV that said: Your fear doesn’t stop my Rights!” Amen to that.
We want safety, and we don’t want to be reckless, but we can’t wait around until someone can guarantee perfection, either, which wont happen anyway. We can never completely escape all risk. Life goes on.
The world is a better place by having people who can respond and help during emergencies. God Bless ’em. But they are not the only ones who are “Heroes” -or who matter! People have rights.
Seinfeld. It was a funny show. DVDs available through Amazon.com Enjoy! Thanks, Youtube.
Meet Travis Heinze.
He creates alot of his own trouble. Law enforcement was just doing his job, and sounded quite reasonable about it. But no, Heinze has to be sassy, contrary and dig himself in deeper. See also his other “Cop stop” videos on Youtube. He is lucky this encounter didnt go any worse for him.
As we spend more time indoors due to the Carona Virus, here are some good movie/DVD/TV recommendations. In no particular order:
Along with good movies, now is a good time to get the Family together, order a Pizza and get together around a big table and play some fun old Board Games. People did more of this back in, say, 1970. It was a fun way to connect with friends. We can still do it now. Chances are, you’ve heard of the game: Monopoly. But there are some other good ones. Barnes & Noble, Walmart or Target should have these. Try the games:
Movies and Games. Gather ’round and enjoy some fun. And re-connect. For now, stay home and stay healthy.
“How’s it goin’?” …and people will say: “Busy”.
“Hey! We’re all gettin’ together next thursday night, should be fun, wanna join us?” ……and you might hear: “Let me check my Calendar”
It seems like people just cant be happy unless they are “Busy”. Too bad for *them!* Because much, much too often, their busy-ness means they are too busy for FUN. And they miss out. Over-committed. To things they don’t enjoy. Yes, *do* be responsible, but I’ll bet 80% of the things you have written on your calendar, the reminders, are NOT for things that are fun. Or enjoyable. But nonetheless, you volunteered or said you’d do them. So there you are. Booked up. Over-committed and too busy, for EnJOYment. Where’s the JOY?
I suspect alot of them don’t care. Who knows, maybe they are more into “seeming important” by having all these things going on. So maybe their idea of “success” is more important to them than FUN. Or Enjoyment! They will tell themselves they are “being responsibile”. We all should be, but thats the default setting. We want to Elevate above that, and be (dare i say it?) Happy! 🙂
In some cases it may be even worse than that. Maybe they aren’t really busy but lie and say they are. Why would they do that? Perhaps they feel a life that isnt busy is “unproductive” or boring and so they are nearly paranoid about LOOKING like a real go-getter and it sounds more politically correct to be “Busy”. Some people may even think of feeling happy as a “luxury” and resign themselves to drudgery. But thats just trying to paint a politically-correct face, on depression. What makes you SMILE? Come Alive! Gives you Zest and enthusiasm? Good emotions, are good for you! Remember that.
Being “Busy” is a fad. But they can have it. I dont want it. With no regrets whatsoever. I want to live a life, a happy life, without even owning any Day Planner at all. With as *little* crammed onto my Calendar as possible, so that—-I will have MAXIMUM unscheduled-free-time!!– to be AVAILABLE and OPEN to any FUN when it comes along. To bad for the rest of you “Busy” suckers.
“How’s it goin’, Owl?”
Me: “FANTASTIC! I have the JOY of FREE time to do whatever I want at a moments notice, or not, however I choose. I am NOT “in a hurry” and NOT having any ulcers worrying about all these places i hafta be because I’m scheduled so “tight”, like so many other poor suckers. And I don’t have to worry about meetings or traffic or being late. How YOU doin’?” haha
Them: well, busy.
Me: Maybe you just suck at Time Management.
Let that sink in. And then sink in some more. And then ask yourself:
2. When was the last time I “cleared my schedule” and spent from 10am til 10pm with my sweetie?
3. When was the last time I had the house to myself, NO CALLS, and sat in my favorite recliner with some soft background music while i spent all day reading a book that I bought?
4. When was the last time i took myself out to lunch, spent all afternoon leisurely walking around the Mall, then having another bite to eat for dinner and then going to see a movie in a big-screen Theatre?
5. When was the last time I filled up the gas tank in the car and got on the freeway and took a scenic drive, 3 hours one way, just to unwind, get out of town and have a refreshing change of scenery?
Them: welllll, I’d like to but, I’m, um, busy.
Me: That’s right. you are. And who’s fault is that? And you’re so “busy” that you don’t have Time: for FUN, for DATES, for day-trips, for unwinding & quiet time….and Life is passing you by!
Do you ever “People-watch”? It can be amazing what you see.
What is up with these people who are INDOORS and walk around wearing a thick wooly head-cap? Is it Raining indoors? Or are you bald-headed?
What is up with 45 yr. old women who have a Metal nose-ring right smack in the bottom-middle of their nose? As if they have a metal booger hanging out.
And whats up with Black men who walk around on the job at work with their pants half-way down their butt-crack and with their underwear crunched and rolled up on top of their low-hanging pants but still below their shirt….in front of others in the breakroom with no shame as if everybody else does it, ummm, NO! They don’t. 98% of most other folks don’t. So why do they? It a helluva way to “get attention” or to be noticed.
Many people, at work, having lunch in the breakroom, will be on their cell phone. This has become more common but—-what is up with those people who are not only on their cell phone but are also wearing a BIG set of Noise-cancelling Headphones AND talking out loud to whoever 20 minutes of their half-hour lunchbreak, in front of 7 or 8 other people in the breakroom, as if no one was there but them?
Once I was on “a first-date” with a woman and I silently noticed that as she was eating her dinner she ordered…..she ate allllll her steak (only. first.) and then alllll of her broccoli, til it was all gone…and then alllll her French fries……one. thing. only. at. a. time. Ok, it’s harmless and you could say: “so what” –but –do you know anyone else who does this? Are they really *that* proud of their “orderliness”? What’s up? People are funny.
People do it all the time. You walk into your job:
You: “Mornin’. How ya doin’? What’s goin’ on?”
Whoever you were talking to: “Whole lotta nuthin'”
While we’re probably all used to that, were we *really* being super-nosey and drastically invading anyone’s personal space? I think not. And so I ask: when you get the person who says “whole lotta nuthin'” (even though you didn’t probe for any specific thing” and/or the person who always replies vaguely with: “ohhh, a little o’ this and a little o’ that”, have you ever felt like making a smart-ass and sarcastic reply? I have. But I haven’t done it.
It’d be funny to see how someone reacts if you said: “hey Joan! Mornin’. whats new?” and when she says “a whole lotta nuthin’ ” to nonchalantly reply: “oh. That’s too bad, that life is so boring for you. I was just hoping that you’d reveal if yer husband cums inside you or if you let him splatter all over your face. (Shrug). Not much new with me, either. See ya.”……
It’s just a bit weird, when you *aren’t* asking directly/specifically for anything personal and the other person *still* acts/reacts as if they’re scared to death anyway, to say anything whatever about themselves. So why not really freak ’em out with some sarcasm? Its tempting. But work would not be the place to do it. But still…
Ted Talks. They suck.
Have I listened to every one of them? No. But some of them. And I’m not impressed. In fact, I’m mostly turned off. They suck. Why? Because—-
1. They lack Passion. They are far too “acceptable” and politically correct and say things that are pathetically easy to agree with anyway, but that I very likely could care less about.
2. Where are the conservative Ted Talks? Oh, you might hear one about the dire warnings of climate change, etc. But where is the TED TALK from someone who thinks climate change is bogus? or who is a member of the NRA? or someone against Globalism? They’re just too liberal all-around. And—-
3. It feels like they don’t have the guts to do TED TALKS on controversial things, unless it’s to present a very liberal view. They avoid controversy too much. It’s “speeches-lite”, about as boring as anything you might hear in a Toastmasters speech. (Insert big Yawn here).