Gotta Luv Carmen Caboom! She’s Funny and speaks her mind. I wish she’d go back to doing more Youtube videos that are 20 minutes or Less, like she used to, but she’s still fun to listen to.
Warning: video contains Adult language.
Category Archives: #Communication
Seinfeld TV show
Seinfeld. It was a funny show. DVDs available through Amazon.com Enjoy! Thanks, Youtube.
Dr. Les Carter, on Narcissism
Meet Dr. Les Carter. Good information on recognizing and dealing with a Narcissist.
How People Feel: taking another look
I am surprised that I haven’t seen or read of someone else already mentioning this, so I thought I’d share.
Chances are, you’ve already heard it said, many times, that: “people may not remember what you said, but they’ll remember how you made them feel.”
Chances are, most of us reading that would easily agree with it and feel its true. And so, we leave it at that. We believe its true, we agree, and we pretty-much stop thinking about it and leave it right there. I’ve don’t that myself, too.
And that is sort of the problem. We’ve stopped thinking any further.
I am being more watchful of the people who say that. Are they practicing what they preach? Are they setting an example? (They want everyone else to). Are they “walking-the-walk?” Or are they hypocrites?
And then you get the people who are uncaringly hurtful verbally and repeatedly and they try to justify it by quickly saying: “I’m just being honest. I call a spade, a spade.” (As if nobody else does). Do either of these people really care how *they* make others feel? But they want you to care. And be aware. And be watchful of yourself.
We can see similar things going on in other areas of life, too, like: :
It’s all-the-rage these days. Seemingly everybody-and-their-dog loves to rave on about:
- “giving back” and–
- “making a difference” but—-8 times out of 10, they’re really more concerned about getting recognition and praise for “making a difference” (would they have still done whatever if they couldn’t tell anyone they did it? I wonder. I really do) and——- for all the politically correct talk about giving-back-to-the-community, these same people never seem to be able to tell you exactly, specifically, WHAT did the “the community” ever do for them in the first place that they would feel the need to “give back?” You will likely see a big Blank here, as apparently not 1 person in 50 will verbalize or specify anything definite.
Kindness to others is a good and positive thing, but It would appear that the problem is that too often when things are True, its easy for us to say: yeah, that’s true, I believe it…….and then not do it, or practice it. Even the Golden Rule. And at other times, to do good, but to be unable or unwilling to tell others why we do it. Like “making a difference”. Suppose you were stranded on a sunny island with lots of abundant fruit growing and a fresh water stream and no wild animals, but no other people on the island. Now you cant do anything for others. How will you “make a difference?” There’s no one else there, to do anything for. What will you do? Would life automatically be meaningless? Could you still find a way to be Happy?
TED Talks suck
Ted Talks. They suck.
Have I listened to every one of them? No. But some of them. And I’m not impressed. In fact, I’m mostly turned off. They suck. Why? Because—-
1. They lack Passion. They are far too “acceptable” and politically correct and say things that are pathetically easy to agree with anyway, but that I very likely could care less about.
2. Where are the conservative Ted Talks? Oh, you might hear one about the dire warnings of climate change, etc. But where is the TED TALK from someone who thinks climate change is bogus? or who is a member of the NRA? or someone against Globalism? They’re just too liberal all-around. And—-
3. It feels like they don’t have the guts to do TED TALKS on controversial things, unless it’s to present a very liberal view. They avoid controversy too much. It’s “speeches-lite”, about as boring as anything you might hear in a Toastmasters speech. (Insert big Yawn here).
The Clifton Strengths Finder & the 34 Strengths
Ever have one of one of those moments where you could kick yourself for not paying more attention to something useful, earlier? Learning more about Psychology and Personality and abilities can be fun. And useful.
Meet: The Clifton Strengths Finder. You can find out what your Top 5 Strengths are.
What comes easy to you? What do you already do well? What are you already strong in? Instead of focusing so much on “overcoming weaknesses”, why not take your strengths and really develop them into something dazzling? Let your competence and abilities Shine!
Here, on YouTube, Tim Collins starts with educating us about the 34 strengths. There is a video for each strength. Many of these are under 2 minutes, and informative! Thanks, Tim Collins.
Psychology. Is Your Therapist Good or Bad? 12 Questions to help decide.
Psychology. Is your Therapist a good one or a bad one? Former Psychotherapist Daniel Mackler asks 12 questions. In any profession, or academic study, I enjoy it when those with inside knowledge are willing to offer a Critique. What do you think? Does he have any valid points?
Types of Mental Help Professionals
Feel like you need therapy? Someone professional to talk to? Counseling? But not sure who does what?
Kati Morton explains the differences in different kinds of mental health professionals. The decision is yours. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfex5wnWZXI
Inventing a NEW Social Media
Many people are dumping Facebook. And Twitter.
Whatever happened to “My Space” ? Should there be a My Space 2.0 ?
Many people like WordPress. Some like Instagram, Tumblr or Wix.com
So I have a question for you: If you imagine the “coolest” kind of Blogging platform or social media “thingy”, what would it be like? What would make it The Best? Name 3 must-have features you would want in it.
Some things on my wish-list would be
1. No Text limit (or, a 12-page limit per post should be enough. Having it doesn’t mean that you always have to use it.). 2. Find other users by Topic/category, and by City. 3. I would actually LIMIT no more than 2 pictures included/attached with any post.
Here’s more: 4. MUCH better control/filtering of any “Timeline” and comments. Such as the ability to Block up to say, 50 users. And also something like: Only show/allow comments and only show me other posts from the country I created my account in. For example, I have no interest in reading posts or getting comments from Bolivia or Uzbekistan or from languages that I don’t speak. Give us the option.
It would also be nice to have some choices to alter colors and fonts. What do you think?
Travis Heinze, Cops and Youtube
Some people you just have to see, or Hear, to believe. Like Travis Heinze, on Youtube.
I guess this guy has no job, lives in his vehicle, drives around to different cities filming parts of the towns and makes Youtube videos. But he also creates a huge amount of trouble for himself with Law Enforcement, needlessly. Like I said, you need to hear him to believe him.
Click this Youtube link to see one of his interactions with law enforcement. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8h9gGuVmnhI
Why is he so defiant and sassy? The Officers I felt were very professional, reasonable and willing to work with him if he simply cooperates! Why not just show them his license and move on? Things could have been so much simpler but he creates alot of his own trouble. The middle of this video “goes Black” but you can still hear the audio. Also, how does Travis get gas money to keep driving to all of these towns?
Ted Talks
Boundaries in your Car
A co-worker is giving you a ride home from work. They have music on in their car. It’s not that it’s too loud, you just don’t like it. But hey! They are doing you a favor and they are in charge in their own car just as they are in their own house. So suck it up and shut up. And Respect their turf! Right? After all, you are not in charge here.They are. But—some people try to be anyway. And this leads us right into “Boundaries”. Imagine this, it could easily happen. Will you stand up for your legitimate rights or let yourself get shamed into doing things their way? Who is in charge at *their* house? Likewise, you have the same rights. Here goes:
A family member is riding with you in *your* car and you have the radio or a music CD on while driving. Its music you really like, but they say the music sucks and to turn it off. How do you (or anyone reading this) feel about this conversation? Here is what I feel they would be likely to say, and my responses:
Them: Gawd, that music sucks. Shut it off.
Me: I like it and this is my car.
Them: But I’m a “captive audience”.
Me: #1–NO ONE forced you to ride with me! And its my car. Would you tell someone else what TV channel to have on if you were in their house?
Them: Well, iiiii wouldn’t do things like that. I’d shut it off it you were in my car.”
Me: Maybe. But you would be within your rights either way. But even aside from that: Your-choices-dont-obligate-me!
Them: well, you could have a little more consideration.
Me: IIII could? 2 replies: #1. who is on who’s “turf” here? When iiii’m the passenger, or a visitor at someone else’s place, I do things *their* way. They, or you, can show “consideration” and respect by doing the same for me. and #2. What would I do if you weren’t even here? I’d enjoy this music. Question: why should I diminish my enjoyment any less, or inhibit myself just because you are here?
Them: That sounds selfish. 15 minutes without your music wouldn’t kill you.
Me: And 15 minutes of hearing it won’t kill you, either. I am within my rights if its in my house, on my property or in my car. Just like you are.
Them: Gawd, I hate driving with you.
Me: I can stop the car. You are free to go. No one ever forced you at all.
Comment: There! That should cover the likely objections and arguments. One more thing—suppose I *did* give them their way on this bit with the radio. How soon would it be before they found 6 other ways and situations for me (or you) to be more “considerate” ? You get to be “courteous” but they will never admit to being “manipulative”, bossy, or trying to run things when they are at your place, will they? I didn’t think so. It’s an ongoing battle but we usually feel better when we stand up for our rights
theWordpressOwl 
Sigh. Where to begin? I have tried to like TedTalks but—-
Over and over again, to me anyway, they seem to be so politically correct or “lite”.
I cant recall listening to ANY that would be “really controversial” where someone argued with passion and good persuasiveness for their case!
Nope. It’s either things that are soooo super-easy to agree with or that everyone knows anyway (so why bother with a speech at all?) or something “safe” that wont ruffle feathers. It reminds me of the sorts of things you might hear in Toastmasters (which is boring as hell).
Has anyone who is a member of the NRA and also “socially conservative” ever been allowed to do a Ted Talk? I say this without bias. I don’t own a gun and am not a member of the NRA.
Maybe I just haven’t heard the right speeches. But so far, it hasn’t been exciting. Sounds like a bunch of liberals preaching touchy-feely stuff.