CARMEN CABOOM & Messy MF’s

Gotta Luv Carmen Caboom! She’s Funny and speaks her mind. I wish she’d go back to doing more Youtube videos that are 20 minutes or Less, like she used to, but she’s still fun to listen to.

Warning: video contains Adult language.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l84mYwBnuWE

DEmotivation Poster

Gawwd, i luv it!   It’s about time someone created something to counter today’s flood of unrealistic, politically-correct  & “sucking up” fluff.   (grin)  There are others, besides these. From Despair.com

 

A Criticism of Youtubers

Think about this.

Do you have any videos on Youtube at all? If you do, one thing I am noticing, as a viewer, over a wide variety of topics on Youtube, and it’s thoroughly aggravating & disgusting is, people who don’t:

. . . . . .GET TO THE  F*n!&#m%y*  POINT!!

Seriously, if your video is 8 minutes long (or more) and it’s 2 minutes and 30 seconds into it before you are–finally—-just starting—-to say what your first point, tip, or bit-of-advice is, then something is seriously wrong. People tuned in, for an answer, and now you’re boring the hell out of them, abusing their patience, and already sounding unfocused.

Are content-creators really so pathetically clueless?

REGARDLESS of the topic—-DO NOT take more than –20 seconds– in the very beginning, to “get-right-to-it” with your specific advice and point #1 to solve the problem or start giving your tips and advice. It’s that simple. Really, it is.

Example: “Hi there! Have you ever been frustrated by….or, what can you do when?….Today, I’ve got 5 bits of advice that you can put into practice and be more effective, right now. Lets get started. The first thing is”……..NOTE: Re-read that example out loud. How long did it take to say that? This is what viewers want. It’s why they clicked on you.  And yet, an astonishing number of  videos don’t practice this!  But it’s easily do-able. Your viewers will thank you for it. With more “likes” and Thumb’s Up’s.

So STOP RAMBLING!  If it means that your video is “only” 4 minutes long,  or more of a “dry” presentation of info—don’t worry about it.  Simpler is better.   People don’t want, or need, 14 miles of irrelevant back-story, or un-focused blabbering.  Be Aware!   Thank You. Your viewers will, too.

 

“MasterClass”–yet another politically-correct Fad

Lately, I am seeing more and more people on Youtube and online, suddenly offering to do a “Master Class” on this or that topic.  Ppfffffftt!  We already have “Webinars”, now that’s not enough and people feel the need to offer a “MasterClass”.  But why? Or—-let me put this another way:

Go ahead and give, or share, the information with your audience, but—-why *call* it a MasterClass at all?  To me, this is just one more way for anyone to  feed their own Ego, that they “know” and—-you don’t. But hey! Out of the kindness of their Heart (cough, cough) they’re going to let you in, onto “the Secret Knowledge”, so that at last, YOU can feel: “Empowered”, “Enlightened” and maybe even  (gasp!) “transformed” (another politically-correct buzzword), so that you can feel new heights of Peak performance, awakened Intuition and success-consciousness, using the latest “ground-breaking, forward-thinking, cutting edge modalities” to be a “power-success” in today’s overloaded rush-hour world.  My, my! How Exciting!

In all seriousness, why not just make another Blog-post and Title it “How To……”and then type or write how to do—whatever.  How to overcome.  How to Deal with….or the Answer to….or Effective Tips to deal with—-whatever.

Most of the people offering a so-called “Master Class” are not PH.D’s, or scholars or someone with 30yrs. experience sharing their wealth of experience. Nope. Most of the time, its either one of the thousands and thousands of today’s “Life Coaches” (One of THE most presumptious things to ever be created! Who was, the very first “Life Coach” in the last 50 yrs. anyway?)  or “Intuitive’s” (its all the Rage! “Everybody” wants to be an “intuitive” but too often they cant prove the worth of their advice. They either “just feel it” or got it from a “spirit guide” or are offering tons of advice when they themselves have much too little experience.”  Too often, they are practically “Cheerleaders” trying to be Psychologist-wannabe’s!

But Hey! They are going to go even beyond a “deep dive” and Bless you with an all-out “MasterClass”!   Bah! This is pure “posing” and trying to feed their own ego or sense of self-importance.  Why?  Because, just take a look around….these days “everybody and his/her dog” wants to be:   a trainer, instructor, Intuitive, guide, teacher, empowerment coach, etc., etc.   and yet—-

When someone *does* give a Masterclass, do they give, provide or say what books *they* have read, or what teachers they have learned from? Usually not. Chances are if they typed their Masterclass out and you read it, ir would simply come across as their opinions/advice, with no other sources but themselves.   But they “know”, and you don’t.   How convenient.  How many books has your Life Coach read?  How many years experience does your Life Coach or Master Class Teacher have on the topic they are “educating” you about? What experts have they DIS-agreed with?  How?  About what?  and how can they show you that their advice or instruction is superior to….whoever else’s?

What about me, and writing this Blog-post? The difference is: I am not posing that I’m giving anyone special secrets or deep, inside “power-knowledge” or even saying that my info/opinions are any deep “MasterClass”.  Although if you find anything I say insightful, that would be rewarding.  But—

Geeeez, you’d think some of todays “advisor’s” were gonna show you the Ultimate-technique to blissful Cosmic-consciousness in the very next half-hour!!   Tooooo much HYPE—-(and sadly, too many suckers who “bite” on it without ever challenging or questioning the person who supposedly “knows”.  Why not “empower” ourselves by doing more of our own reading and daring to question the so-called “experts”?).   Or by having more experience in a given area. Why not empower yourself by reaching some of your own conclusions, from your own investigations, and having some confidence in them?  But most people do what’s “easiest”. Sadly, too often, that means they sacrifice their own curiosity to any so-called advisor or guide—-who has tons of advice but very little actual knowledge, or insights.  Pfffftt!  So much for being “strong, confident and independent” in today’s world, eh?

Comedy or Stupidity?

Meet Travis Heinze.  He creates alot of his own trouble. Law enforcement was just doing his job, and sounded quite reasonable about it.  But no, Heinze has to be sassy, contrary and dig himself in deeper. See also his other “Cop stop” videos on Youtube.   He is lucky this encounter didnt go any worse for him.

Examining Happiness

Everyone wants to be happy. We want to worry less and to feel more joyful.  Let’s take a deeper look at that.  Some people are “a bundle of “nerves” ” where even small things trigger them into too much tension, anger, anxiety or some unpleasant emotion.   This is likely a body-chemistry thing with them—-drugs? too much caffeine, or some actual vitamin/mineral or hormone imbalance, keeping them  “off-center” and interfering with one’s well-being.

What if we could balance or restore our inner chemistry to 40% more inner Peace and 60% more enthusiastic Joy and zest?  Think more about this. If someone can feel “all wound up” where too-many-things-that-shouldn’t bothers them, then why can’t there be an inner-chemistry where we could far better be “less-rattled” by whatever comes up, (but not become uncaring or inactive or unresponsive) and also have more zest and smiling Joy (while still being rational).  Why not?  If an imbalance can mess us up, why cant a better (but Natural) internal mix make us more calm but also more energetically happy?

But—when I go to the Bookstore and scan through some paperbacks on Happiness,  no one talks about this. Instead, today its all about:

  1. Just have friends
  2.  and a job you like
  3.  exercise
  4.  manage your finances

Those are good things, but what no one is talking about is:

A person could do/have all of those things, and still have a bad “internal body chemistry” and be agitated, easily angered, depressed, overly anxious anyway!!   Many people are.

While practicing “mindfulness” can be a healthy first step, too few people are doing it and it doesn’t seem to be enough of a help.  We need a better and healthier and natural better body chemistry where we can be less agitated (but not inactive) and yet have energy and feel like smiling more easily (while still being rational and coherent).  I’m not a doctor but thats my opinion. Who couldnt use more peace, and more Joy, more often?

 

Frank James and 16 Personalities at the Therapist

Frank James has some funny Youtube videos, like this one:

 

“My Opinion” – the Narcissist’s Revenge?

Maybe this has happened to you.  You have been dealing with a Narcissist. This person often minimizes what you say, or ignores it with no response at all, or ridicules it, or acts like they know better than you—and if you call them out or confront them on it, then they say that they are not criticizing, or  minimizing, but that they just disagree and you are wrong from:  “their Perspective”.   Its “their opinion” and they are entitled to their opinion, just like you are. Now what?

My response is:  they have a right to their opinion, but  nnoooooobody, disagrees  *that* much! There must be something else, or something more, going on.

They hide behind “Subjectivity gone wild”.   It’s all feelings. They aren’t reasoning with you as an adult.

 

 

 

Is anybody Healthy or together?

I enjoy reading about Psychology, personality disorders and happiness.

There is no shortage of advice out there, with tons of people who have become Life Coaches, Therapists, Counselors, Intuitives and on and on, all with their own “paths to wholeness”, advice, methods, etc.  And it gets me asking some things:

  1. Is *anybody*   “whole”, healthy and “together”??   Is everybody “broken”?  What does a Positive Emotional Health look like? and just what is the right advice to follow?

Is it all about…… “letting go”?  Is that the answer?  Or— “setting Boundaries”?   Or  “being mindful”?  Or communicating better at work?  And at home?  Or getting more Sleep? Or “trusting your Heart”? or better Time Management?  Or being more alert and sensitive to spiritual “energies”?  Is it about cutting people out of your Life who annoy you?

Is it all of those things? And—–after you have finally done them, what then?  Will you be happy?   Would you settle for “less miserable”?   What will you do to put more positive Pleasure into your individual Life?

Is it all about “giving back to the Community”?   Is it really?  Tell me—exactly what, tangibly, has “the community” -Already-  done for you, that you would feel some legitimate “Need” to “give back”?   Did the community pay off your student loan?  Buy your first house?  Your car?  Pay your medical bills?  No? So what exactly are you giving back”?  No one seems to know. Or they wont say.

Most of the so-called “giving back” is often just for –Recognition and one’s own image.

So! You went on a run and “Raced-for-the-Cure”? Because you “care”?   Do you really? Or do you “Care” about wearing the ribbon you got for participating, to work the next day so several people will ask you what it is and you can tell them all how you “cared” and were “giving back”?  Now you can feel better about yourself cuz you’ve one-upmanshipped them and can tell yourself you “cared more” than they did and how you “made a difference”.  Is that your idea of happiness?   And yet many people do this.

Would they have participated and gave back if they couldnt tell anyone about it?  I wonder. Imagine you are stranded on a warm island with no wild animals to attack you and plenty of fruit growing everywhere but—-no other people on the island.  You are alone. There is no “community” to “give back” to. and so—-is Happiness impossible?  What would you do to be “whole and Integrated and grounded and to feel positive”?  Ask yourself this! I believe its a good test.

….and on it goes, with advice, therapies, programs, techniques, revelations, etc…..and so i ask:  after we’ve all finally:

become more assertive, eaten more fiber and flaxseed, drink more water, had more massages, get more sleep, get promoted,  cleansed our bodies of toxins, seperated ourselves from Toxic people, practiced more Mindfulness, gotten more hugs, attended more seminars…….what then?    What is positive emotional and grounded health?  Is anybody Healthy?   –theOwl30       PS—scroll down and read another 8 or 10 of my posts. I write/post about a variety of topics. Comment on anything.   🙂

Dress Codes

Most likely, where you work has some sort of Dress Code.

Who writes these things?

Get this:  Employees will not wear:

Jeans that are ripped, Halter tops, tank tops, etc., etc.. on and on…..BUT——Blue Hair, Nose-rings, Yellow Lip-stick and weird/freaky hairstyles are just fine.

You cant be  “distracting”  with a sexually attractive appearance, (some places wont allow Sundresses, even though you are covered) but if you’re flat-out butt-ugly with tattoos and freaky hairstyles and grungy street-clothes and nose-rings or are just a plain outrageous eye-sore to the “community” (workplace) appearance, its OK.

So I ask:   Just how outrageous would things need to get before we said” enough is enough” ?   Too many today confuse “freedom-of-expression” with a “license” to see how glaring and odd they can be.

 

How People Feel: taking another look

I am surprised that I haven’t seen or read of someone else already mentioning this, so I thought I’d share.

Chances are, you’ve already heard it said, many times, that: “people may not remember what you said, but they’ll remember how you made them feel.”

Chances are, most of us reading that would easily agree with it and feel its true. And so, we leave it at that. We believe its true, we agree, and we pretty-much stop thinking about it and leave it right there.  I’ve don’t that myself, too.

And that is sort of the problem. We’ve stopped thinking any further.

I am being more watchful of the people who say that. Are they practicing what they preach? Are they setting an example? (They want everyone else to). Are they “walking-the-walk?” Or are they hypocrites?

And then you get the people who are uncaringly hurtful verbally and repeatedly and they try to justify it by quickly saying: “I’m just being honest. I call a spade, a spade.” (As if nobody else does). Do either of these people really care how *they* make others feel? But they want you to care. And be aware. And be watchful of yourself.

We can see similar things going on in other areas of life, too, like: :

It’s all-the-rage these days. Seemingly everybody-and-their-dog loves to rave on about:

  1. “giving back” and–
  2.  “making a difference” but—-8 times out of 10, they’re really  more concerned about getting recognition and praise for “making a difference” (would they have still done whatever if they couldn’t tell anyone they did it? I wonder. I really do) and——- for all the politically correct talk about giving-back-to-the-community, these same people never seem to be able to tell you exactly, specifically, WHAT did the “the community” ever do for them in the first place that they would feel the need to “give back?”  You will likely see a big Blank here, as apparently not 1 person in 50 will verbalize or specify anything definite.

Kindness to others is a good and positive thing, but It would appear that the problem is that too often when things are True, its easy for us to say: yeah, that’s true, I believe it…….and then not do it, or practice it.  Even the Golden Rule. And at other times, to do good, but to be unable or unwilling to tell others why we do it. Like “making a difference”. Suppose you were stranded on a sunny island with lots of abundant fruit growing and a fresh water stream and no wild animals, but no other people on the island. Now you cant do anything for others. How will you “make a difference?” There’s no one else there, to do anything for. What will you do? Would life automatically be meaningless? Could you still find a way to be Happy?

Weird Things That People Do Today

Do you ever “People-watch”?   It can be amazing what you see.

What is up with these people who are INDOORS and walk around wearing a thick wooly head-cap?  Is it Raining indoors? Or are you bald-headed?

What is up with 45 yr. old women who have a Metal nose-ring right smack in the bottom-middle of their nose? As if they have a metal booger hanging out.

And whats up with Black men who walk around on the job at work with their pants half-way down their butt-crack and with their underwear crunched and rolled up on top of their low-hanging pants but still below their shirt….in front of others in the breakroom with no shame as if everybody else does it, ummm, NO! They don’t. 98% of most other folks don’t. So why do they? It a helluva way to “get attention” or to be noticed.

Many people, at work, having lunch in the breakroom, will be on their cell phone. This has become more common but—-what is up with those people who are not only on their cell phone but are also wearing a BIG set of Noise-cancelling Headphones AND talking out loud to whoever 20 minutes of their half-hour lunchbreak, in front of 7 or 8 other people in the breakroom, as if no one was there but them?

Once I was on “a first-date” with a woman and I silently noticed that as she was eating her dinner she ordered…..she ate allllll her steak (only. first.) and then alllll of her broccoli, til it was all gone…and then alllll her French fries……one. thing. only. at. a. time.     Ok, it’s harmless and you could say: “so what” –but –do you know anyone else who does this?  Are they really *that* proud of their “orderliness”?  What’s up?  People are funny.