LIfe has its stresses and hassles. Sometimes we may feel too worried, or depressed, or angry, or too rushed, or irritated by aggravations.
It would nice, if more of the time, we could feel both: 1. Calm and 2. Happy
John A. Schindler M.D. and his book: “How to Live 365 Days a Year” can be a big help with that. The book was written years ago but is still very relevant and accurate, today.
No, it’s not another book on “Mindfulness” or “positive thinking” or visualization. More down to earth and physical and some solid everyday advice.
It talks about how we can be “calm, and happy. –Right now.” You will also get a mini-education about: Glands and hormones. No worries, he keeps it simple and not too technical, but you will likely find it eye-opening.
What is STH? What is ACTH? What can be the long-term effect of too much of these? Who was Dr. Hans Seyle? The book mentions that “Good Emotions are your best medicine!” Several times, you will be presented with a real-life situation, and see how 2 different people handled it, one in a healthy way, the other one not so much. You can see the difference. This is realistic advice you can put into practice. You will also learn more about your body chemistry and how it affects you.
Who doesn’t want to feel more “Calm. and Happy. –Right now”? Amazon.com should have this book. Barnes & Noble should be able to order it. Get it. Read it. It is definitely “time well-spent”. 🙂 You’ll feel better. PS—I post about a variety of topics. Scroll down and see my last 12 posts, or explore my monthly archives. Thanks for stopping by. –the Owl
Everyone wants to be happy. We want to worry less and to feel more joyful. Let’s take a deeper look at that. Some people are “a bundle of “nerves” ” where even small things trigger them into too much tension, anger, anxiety or some unpleasant emotion. This is likely a body-chemistry thing with them—-drugs? too much caffeine, or some actual vitamin/mineral or hormone imbalance, keeping them “off-center” and interfering with one’s well-being.
What if we could balance or restore our inner chemistry to 40% more inner Peace and 60% more enthusiastic Joy and zest? Think more about this. If someone can feel “all wound up” where too-many-things-that-shouldn’t bothers them, then why can’t there be an inner-chemistry where we could far better be “less-rattled” by whatever comes up, (but not become uncaring or inactive or unresponsive) and also have more zest and smiling Joy (while still being rational). Why not? If an imbalance can mess us up, why cant a better (but Natural) internal mix make us more calm but also more energetically happy?
But—when I go to the Bookstore and scan through some paperbacks on Happiness, no one talks about this. Instead, today its all about:
- Just have friends
- and a job you like
- manage your finances
Those are good things, but what no one is talking about is:
A person could do/have all of those things, and still have a bad “internal body chemistry” and be agitated, easily angered, depressed, overly anxious anyway!! Many people are.
While practicing “mindfulness” can be a healthy first step, too few people are doing it and it doesn’t seem to be enough of a help. We need a better and healthier and natural better body chemistry where we can be less agitated (but not inactive) and yet have energy and feel like smiling more easily (while still being rational and coherent). I’m not a doctor but thats my opinion. Who couldnt use more peace, and more Joy, more often?
There is no shortage of advice these days. On how to be:
A Success….or Happier……or more Productive……or Fulfilled….and on and on.
But it’s time ask yourself: What do *you* think is “the Answer”—and why that? Ya know, its kinda weird. For all the tons of books and advice out there, almost no one tells you to “trust your own judgement”. Everyone wants you to follow *them* (while they make more money). People are too dependent and reliant on what others tell them is the answer—to “get ahead”…to “find Bliss”…or whatever.
I was just recently in a Barnes and Noble Bookstore and there are lots of books on “Mindfulness”. It’s all the rage these days. And meditation. In the bookstores, On Youtube. But—the answer, keeps changing with time. As if they are fads that come and go.
Over the last 40 years, advice has been all over the map. But what do *you* think is best? Is it all about:
“letting go”…..or “taking responsibility”……or “getting in touch with your inner child”….or cutting out “toxic people”……or “getting more confidence”…..or “finding your passion”……or starting your own business…..or “forgiving yourself”…..or “being assertive”…..or labeling half the people in your life as “narcissists” and then ghosting them?…..or buying excersize equipment?….or being more “grounded” (How? what does that even mean?)….or “balancing your Chakras?”…..or “being more mindful” ?
Next year, when the bookstores have another new batch of advice-books, will you jump on the Bandwagon or whatever the next fad is? Even the “experts” keep changing. So! After all the books, and TedTalks, and Youtube videos, and therapists—-What do *you* think is best? and Why?
Book: “The 60-second Shrink” (Over 100 Strategies for Staying Sane in a Crazy World) by Arnold A. Lazarus PH,D. and Clifford N. Lazarus PH,D.
Lots of useful advice in this book! From the Table of Contents: 1. What to Say When You Talk to Yourself
22. The Dangers of Faulty Positive Thinking
31. Setting Realistic Goals
41. Keys to a Successful Marriage
62. Assertion, Aggression and Passivity
89. The Three Major Types of Psychotherapies
97. Got a Problem? Take Something for it? Or Do Something About it?
And there’s much more. A useful and handy reference to have.