TV tragedies, relentless Advertising and Burnout.

Animal cruelty. It’s wrong and it’s sad.  They don’t deserve it. No one does. I hope some good Master or owner will buy them, rescue them and take good and loving care of them.  But—-

…there is a However.  A big however. Nope, its even bigger than that. (this won’t be popular but someone needs to say it).  Have you ever—cared about something, felt empathy for it—-and then, been nagged and nagged and nagged and pestered and nagged and nagged some more?  Until what you had sympathy for is now very annoying.  This is happening.  Now. On TV.

So…I had a day off. I turned the TV on, and left it on.  An Animal Cruelty commercial came on, complete with a sad-sounding narrator and even what sounded like actual Violin-music in the background. Then it gets worse—-

I notice that  “Man, O Man! That has got to be THE lloooonngest single commercial in history! Holy crap.” Yes, its a worthy cause to address but Sheesh!, is this a commercial or a Podcast/conference? That was bad enough, and then it get’s worse. The TV shows this, and re-shows, and re-shows, and later on still re-shows this….Good God, this is Relentless! Enough already! Seriously.  You say: but they need help.—

Fine. Then go buy and rescue 11 dogs,  yourself,  and then SHUT THE F*** UP!!

Because you’ve Exhausted me. With your Fanaticism. And Nagging.

And more Nagging! For awhile, I could relate. But now the commercial is worse than a telemarketer. Congratulations! –Your Un-relenting-ness has now given me “empathy Burn-out”.  They want people to care, but all this persistence and reminders and repetition, on and on, over and over,  is now REPELLING folks, and downright annoying.

And so….I changed the channel. On this channel, there is a commercial asking to donate money for care-packages to starving people in a foreign country.  Then, a bit later, they show it again!  Is there anything else to talk about?

And then….they show a commercial for cancer-kids and handicapped.  Good grief, does EVERYTHING have to be some gut-wrenching Tragedy?!?   Over and over and over…..

I change back to the first channel I was watching. A commercial comes on. Now it’s about wounded warriors. Yet ANOTHER tragedy!  And they keep re-showing this one, too.  And I was -already-  suffering “compassion-fatigue”. But this stuff just goes oonnnn and oonnnn.  Is there ANYTHING Positive to advertise?  Anything?

It’s too much.  Dayyy after Dayyy.  And then someone says:

Well, someday, it might be you! And I say: Yes, that could happen. And if it does, I, too, may ask for help.  BUT—-iiii won’t do it 9-times-a-day.  And then,  tomorrow…….and then…..

HSP or Highly Sensitive Person is the new Manipulation fad.

Meet the latest false Fad. If the Narcissist tries to get their way by verbal bullying. criticism, manipulation, then the so-called “Highly Sensitive Person” (or HSP)  tries to get their way by taking introversion, passive-aggressiveness, and your compassion to the other extreme!

How do these people function in the workplace? I have visions of them abusing “work-life balance”, NOT being in the Top 15% most productive at work, being “overwhelmed” far too often and wanting to isolate themselves in a cubicle. If you try to get them to improve in any way, they will likely “get sick”. But you have to be extra super-nice to them, poor little things, because after all, their just so “sensitive”. With some of them, it can even be a sort of game where they may think they are better than you because they “feel more”, or are more spiritually developed because they are “empathic” or “intuitive” (its all the rage these days). But its the opposite of Narcissism. Its getting their way by playing on your Heartstrings and showing you “care”. But it goes much too far. As DR. Phil might say: “WHERE ARE YOUR BALLS?” and so—-
Dear HSP, Introvert and “Sensitive”,
We all deserve to be Happy.
Personal-growth, happy experiences and emotional health, matter.
Therefore, I’m going to make 2020 a better year. By doing healthy and practical self-care.
By not wasting any more time being endlessly patient, or to continue tolerating others who practically “glorify sickness”, or broken-ness, or Autism, or Depression or introversion, or “sensitivity”.

I WAS THERE, when you were hurting.
I WAS THERE when you needed Understanding!
I WAS THERE when you needed someone to listen. And I did—for far too long.
And you never got better.

After all this time, you’re as miserable and struggling as ever and it has now become a matter of my own self-preservation!
I can’t take anymore. Life is passing *me* by, and I was still patient with you! But you’ve exhausted me.
Since Love is a mutual thing, even among friends, I’m leaving. To make my own better times. While I still can. Before I’m too old.

I owe this to myself. We all do. Without guilt. They say: “Life is too short” and dealing with all of this is the proof! But no more.
My personal happiness has been denied too long and “caring” has sucked me dry. It isn’t Healthy! Where is my Joy? We all deserve it. Sometimes I feel like you are hiding behind “being sensitive” as an excuse to have folks be extra-nice to you as you make practically zero efforts to improve anything. What *are* you doing, right now, to get any better at all, and not so “sensitive”?
So, I hope you find a good therapist. And good medication from a Doctor if you need it.

I’m done with waiting for better times, someday.
I can’t wait another year for you to get better.
I *had* patience, lots of it, already. But you have to *want* to get better! Do you?
What steps are you taking right now to become happier? To have less stress? To smile and laugh more. To be more confident. To be less rattled.
I can’t fix you. And a healthy person wouldn’t want me trying to “fix” them.
Broken people don’t make healthy couples! So, work on yourself.
The Sun is out. The air is fresh. And there’s a world of Happy, yes happy, experiences and people out there. It’s high-time I enjoyed them! Starting now. So I’m moving on and doing that! This is nothing for me to apologize for or feel guilty about.
I do not mean any harm. I wish you well. I hope you find happiness, but it can no longer be with me. I was there for you, for too long. Hiding behind “being sensitive” is no excuse for your continued lack of action. Go get some professional help.

Bad Dates & Bad TV

There are many things that I don’t want to talk about on a 1st date. Or maybe any other time, too. And some things I’m totally sick of seeing on TV, sad and legitimate though they may be. Some are super-boring and some, while there may be a genuine need for help, are just “shoved-in-your-face” over and over and over and over on TV until you are worn out and now disgusted to see them at all.

Can I watch just ONE solid 7 day week of TV and NOT see any commercials whatsoever about:

  1. Bladder leakage products
  2.  Cancer-kids
  3.  Wounded warriors
  4.  Animal cruelty
  5.  starving people in foreign countries

The need may be real, but the relentless overkill frequency of the commercials gives one “compassion fatigue” and becomes a real turn-off.   That said, some topics are super-boring when you meet a new person, or even afterwards. For me, I really bored silly over anyone wanting to talk about:

  1.  “giving back” to the “community” or “making a difference”. Bleeaaaughh.  GO AWAY. Now!
  2.  Anything Vegan, gluten-free, or how anyone is allegic to this and that and that and wants 4 accommodations whenever they go to any restaurant and interrogate the servers.
  3.  Liberals, social “justice” warriors.
  4.  the middle east
  5.  Climate change and/or the Environment
  6.  “Lightworkers”, quantum theory anything, Ekhart Tolle, Deepok Chopra or Oprah.
  7.  People who love to keep deciding that this or that isn’t really “Appropriate”.
  8. . people who are late, lax, unreliable and then say everything is “no big deal”.

What can I say? Good help is hard to find. But worth looking for.

Empathy, Helping, Serving others & the Internet

Do you believe in Empathy? Compassion? “being of service to others”? Yes? Those things are “all the rage” these days. And so I ask: Have you noticed? For all of the importance and value so many people put on those things, consider this:

Not so many years ago, if someone else asked you if you knew of any website, book, or article that they could read that would inform them more about Whatever topic, you would have likely said: Oh, you should read the book (insert book title here), or go to the website _____________.  That–would have been “being of service” or helpful to others, or maybe even compassionate.

But today, people largely don’t do that. Instead, people just say: Google it. Or—“look it up”. You’re on your own. No one cares. “Look it up” is the answer to everything.

Ha! So much for “having empathy” Or “being of service”.  As if “sharing knowledge” and “being helpful” has gone out of style.  Even though people can’t stop talking about how important it all is in so many other spiritual ways, and in business, or school, or everyday life. Yeah, right.

 

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