Happiness & “connections”

There seems to be a lot of talk these days in Psychology and self-help about finding happiness by having good “connections.”

People say its not what you have, but who we have. But if you believe that, then as soon as you’re 85 or older and have outlived your friends and are alone, then you are instantly not happy, because your connections have passed away and you’ve outlived them. So, unless you’ve also made new ones, you will be alone. And if you are alone, you aren’t “connected”. And if you aren’t connected, how can you still be happy if you believe this current fad? If all of your happiness is in “connections” but you have outlived your connections, is it now instant sadness? How can it not be, if your happiness is dependent on that, and the current writers on “connections” seem to put all of their eggs in that basket. I don’t see them offering anything else!

So if they pin all of their hope for happiness on that, and it dries-up and goes away, what then? Will you ever find Joy in living again?  This goes unaddressed in todays raving about having good connections.

While connections can definitely give us Joy, the real question is: could you, still find joy, even without them? This does not mean that we seek or want to be alone, only that our life is not automatically ruined if we are. But that part isn’t  being much talked about. Challenge the book-writers. Dare to question those who have a degree.