Oldies! “Hungry” by Paul Revere & the Raiders

60’s rock n roll. Here’s “Hungry” by Paul Revere & the Raiders. Thanks, Youtube. For those of you under 30, there was sooo much great music from ’56-’68. The Beatles, The Hollies, Ricky Nelson, The Searchers, The Kinks, Doo-Wop music, Johnny Rivers and more.  Explore my blog. I post on a variety of topics.

Love. Relationships. Compatibility.

Love! Romance! Good things. But will they last?  Hopefully, but it’s not guaranteed.

When loving, romantic couples also say: “I married my best friend”, I think that’s a good thing. When you never run out of things to talk about and both love to do many, many of the same things, it’s always more fun (and less fighting) that way.

Romance & passion matters, but then what? How about over the long term?

Imagine it’s a rainy night and the two of you are watching TV. Do you both like the same types of shows/movies or do you fight over what to watch? What if you’re terribly bored watching another one of “her” cooking shows? What if she’s fed up with watching yet another one of “his” law/crime shows? Does it become an argument? Do you sit there, frustrated and feeling like you’re “putting up with it”?

You go out to eat. Do you argue about which restaurant to go to this time or do you both like the same foods? Is she a Vegan? Does he like a Barbecued Steak? Or, it’s time to get away for the weekend and take a short 2 or 3 day trip. Does she hate the mountains? Does he hate the beach? Does it become a fight? Or, do you both like the same places? Compatibility! Common interests! They matter.

They say Marriage is work. It is. It will be said: “but people never agree on everything.” True, but why make it harder on yourself? Agree on the Big things. The things that YOU really like. The things you want your sweetie to enjoy *with* you. Find a kindred spirit that you are also attracted to! There are times we all need to compromise but more common interests means less arguing. Love is easier and more fun and lasts longer when you’re “both on the same wavelength.” We should pay more attention to that.

Thanks for reading this. I am theOwl30 and I post about several different topics. You can find more at: thewordpressowl.wordpress.com

Your Blogging New Year’s Resolution

Blogging is fun. With Blogging, we can express ourselves. We can share our opinions.

Or can we? You can’t post, or share your opinions and views if you don’t have any! Do you? I am amazed about how so many bloggers won’t take any definite stand, on what *they* blog about.  Usually, when someone replies to a post they made and asks any questions about it, even politely.

They “wimp out.” They won’t be definite about anything. But they must (you would think) have some opinion. After all, they are the one who brought up the topic. But there are far too many things like:
“Wellll, it’s complicated.”  Reply: In other words, you didn’t think it through very much at all before you made your first or opening-post on what you wrote about.   Or–

“That’s a good question”. Reply: in other words, you’ve been stopped in your tracks and don’t have a comeback. Or—

“It’s not that simple.”  Reply: People always say that when they dont wanna defend their view (or can’t) or when they don’t wanna commit themself or take any definite stand. But again, it must matter to them. They, brought it up.  Or—

“I think there needs to be a balance.” Reply: I’m not even sure that that “sounds good” anymore. Because people will say that, and then—Poof! Nothing more. Zero. Nada. They won’t even say what balance is to them, or where they would draw-the-line, and why there. Nope. End of discussion. All conversation on that topic stops.

And so—-for 2018, and on, try harder not to be a timid, non-committal, politically-correct, mousy Wimp! Take a stand!

It’s YOUR Topic. How do you feel about it? What do you think about it? Why? Be passionate. About whatever interests you. Have a foundation and basis for your view, whatever it is. And share that.  You’ll be ten times more interesting than if you wimp-out and say, “welll, it all depends”……

Astrology. December Horoscope.

They say: “Free, is a good price.”  At AstrologyZone.com , Astrologer Susan Miller gives a MONTHLY Horoscope for all signs.Check it out.  Be sure to also click pgs. 2 and 3 at bottom, too.    https://www.astrologyzone.com/horoscopes/

#Astrology #Spirituality

Books: “Phantoms” by Dean Koontz

“Phantoms” by Dean Koontz is a good read! Read the outside back cover of the paperback. Stephen King described it as: Gruesome! Unrelenting!

This one gets good right away, in under 5 pages. Enjoy!  –theOwl30

Music. “I’m Just a Singer in a Rock and Roll Band” by The Moody Blues

70s Rock. Here’s ” I”m Just a Singer in a Rock and Roll Band” by The Moody Blues.  Thanks, YouTube.

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Dear HSP, Depressed, and Sensitive

Dear HSP, Depressed and “Sensitive”,

We all deserve to be Happy.

Personal-growth, happy experiences and emotional health, matter.

Therefore, I’m going to make 2018 a better year. By not wasting any more time being endlessly patient, or to continue tolerating others who practically “glorify sickness”, or broken-ness, or Autism, or Depression or introversion, or “sensitivity”.

I WAS THERE, when you were hurting. I WAS THERE when you needed Understanding! I WAS THERE when you needed someone to listen. And I did. For far too long.
And you never got better.
After all this time, you’re as miserable and struggling as ever and it has now become a matter of my own self-preservation!

I can’t take anymore. Life is passing *me* by, and I was still patient with you! But you’ve exhausted me.

Since Love is a mutual thing, even among friends, I’m leaving.      To make my own better times. While I still can. Before I’m too old.

I owe this to myself. We all do. Without guilt. They say: “Life is too short” and dealing with all of this is the proof! But no more. My personal happiness has been denied too long and “caring” has sucked me dry. Meanwhile, as the months, and even years went by, LIFE has been passing me by. It isn’t right. It isn’t Healthy! Sometimes I feel like you are hiding behind “being sensitive” as an excuse to have folks be extra-nice to you as you make practically zero efforts to improve anything. What *are* you doing? How “caring” are you?

So, I hope you find a good therapist. And good medication from a Doctor if you need it. Or a different & better medication from your doctor if your current one isn’t working. I’m done with waiting for better times, someday.

I can’t wait another year for you to get better.
I *had* patience, lots of it, already. But you have to *want* to get better! Do you? What steps are you taking right now to become happier? To have less stress? To smile and laugh more. To be more confident. To be less rattled.
I can’t fix you. And a healthy person wouldn’t want me trying to “fix” them.

Broken people don’t make healthy couples!  So, work on yourself.
The Sun is out. The air is fresh. And there’s a world of Happy, yes happy, experiences and people out there. It’s high-time I enjoyed them!  Starting now. So I’m moving on and doing that!  This is nothing for me to apologize for or feel guilty about.
I do not mean any harm. I wish you well. I hope you find happiness, but it can no longer be with me. I was there for you, for too long. Hiding behind “being sensitive” is no excuse for your continued lack of action. Go get some professional help.

#Self-Preservation #Happiness #Survival #HSP #Depression #Relationships

“All I Want” by Toad the Wet Sprocket.

Rock on! Here is the Vevo video from Youtube of “All I Want” by Toad the Wet Sprocket.

#Music, #Youtube, #RockMusic, #PartyTunes

The Moai on Easter Island

The Moai. These are huge rock statues on Easter Island, which is west of South America.

How were they built? Why? What is the meaning of them? And what happened to the people who built them? But the big mystery is, how did they do it?  Here is more info from easterisland.travel.   https://www.easterisland.travel/easter-island-facts-and-info/moai-statues/

#EasterIsland #Moai #TheMoai #Mysteries #History

 

 

Boundaries, Narcissism and Assertiveness

Boundaries! Personal Rights! How much will relatives or friends accuse you of being selfish or being a “narcissist” if you dare to lay down any rules? How do -you- decide whether it’s being “too controlling” or you are excersizing a legitimate right, even if someone else doesn’t like it?

Try this scenario:
Let’s assume you have your own car and your own separate place to live, but in the same town or within 25 minutes away.

Question: in your siblings house, who is in charge?
Answer: they are.
Why?
Because it”s their house. Simple.
Next question: who is in charge in their car?
Answer: they are.
Why?
Because it’s their car. Again, simple.

So! If they are a passenger in your car and you are driving, and you have the radio on, or a playing a CD in your car while driving, and they don’t like that song, or that kind of music and tell you: that music sucks. I don’t want to listen to that crap. Play it on your own time when I’m  not here.
What will you do?
Who is in charge in *their* car? Would an aquaintance or someone at work who’s car broke down and needs a ride, would that person tell you what to listen to or to shut it off? I think very likely NOT. Why should family have any more “power”?

Have you ever considered that their wanting you to shut it off is *their* way of being a control freak or trying to dominate you or for them to be “in charge”? Could it be another small way of them trying to manipulate you?

Suppose they said they would turn it off in their car if you didn’t like it. Do you believe them? And what if they did? Should their personal choices require you to be obligated?  What if they came into your house and told you to change the TV show (which you like) to something else? Do you really have to let people dominate you in little ways like this in order to not be “selfish” or “inconsiderate”? They don’t mind one bit that you are giving in to them, but who’s house is it?

It you can’t have boundaries:  1. In your own house, or
2. In your own car—where can you??  Where do they?
Do you disagree? Why?
#Boundaries #Manipulation #PowerTrips #Assertiveness #Respect #Communication #Family #PersonalRights #Teens #Adults #Guilt #Happiness #Relationships