Love! Romance! Good things. But will they last? Hopefully, but it’s not guaranteed.
When loving, romantic couples also say: “I married my best friend”, I think that’s a good thing. When you never run out of things to talk about and both love to do many, many of the same things, it’s always more fun (and less fighting) that way.
Romance & passion matters, but then what? How about over the long term?
Imagine it’s a rainy night and the two of you are watching TV. Do you both like the same types of shows/movies or do you fight over what to watch? What if you’re terribly bored watching another one of “her” cooking shows? What if she’s fed up with watching yet another one of “his” law/crime shows? Does it become an argument? Do you sit there, frustrated and feeling like you’re “putting up with it”?
You go out to eat. Do you argue about which restaurant to go to this time or do you both like the same foods? Is she a Vegan? Does he like a Barbecued Steak? Or, it’s time to get away for the weekend and take a short 2 or 3 day trip. Does she hate the mountains? Does he hate the beach? Does it become a fight? Or, do you both like the same places? Compatibility! Common interests! They matter.
They say Marriage is work. It is. It will be said: “but people never agree on everything.” True, but why make it harder on yourself? Agree on the Big things. The things that YOU really like. The things you want your sweetie to enjoy *with* you. Find a kindred spirit that you are also attracted to! There are times we all need to compromise but more common interests means less arguing. Love is easier and more fun and lasts longer when you’re “both on the same wavelength.” We should pay more attention to that.
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